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Melinda & Jacqui from Select Connections are extremely proud to announce the launch of the first ever E-book designed for mature singles entering the dating world in 2023.

Are you a mature single, re-entering the dating world after a long-term relationship? If so, you'll quickly realise that the dating landscape today bears little resemblance to the one you left behind in the 1970s, 1980s, or 1990s.

The rise of online dating has brought incredible opportunities to connect with potential partners, but it has also introduced new risks and challenges, particularly when it comes to scams and fraud.

At Select Connections, we understand the importance of staying safe while exploring the vast world of online dating.

We are proud to present our latest initiative: a free eBook resource designed specifically for mid-life and later-in-life singles.

Our mission is to provide support and guidance to all mature daters, regardless of their financial situation.

In "Staying Safe from Romance Fraud," we have gathered valuable insights, practical tips, and expert advice to equip you with the knowledge needed to navigate the sometimes treacherous waters of online dating.

We want to empower you to make informed decisions and build meaningful connections with confidence.

We firmly believe that everyone deserves access to essential resources for safe online dating, regardless of their budget.

That's why we are offering this ebook completely free of charge, available for download on our website. We are committed to supporting the dating aspirations of mature individuals who might not be able to afford our services but still deserve a chance at finding love and companionship.

Join us in embracing this new era of dating by arming yourself with knowledge and taking control of your online dating journey.

Visit our website today and download your free copy of "Staying Safe From Romance Fraud" Together, we can ensure that your search for love is not only exciting but also safe and secure.

Jacqui & Melinda @select-connections: Empowering mature daters to find love, one chapter at a time.

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Join Melinda and Jacqui as they talk you through their up-and-coming Exclusive UK Wide Community of Mature Affluent Singles.

You must be single and in your 50s, 60s, or 70s.

Our new Elite Community is taking dating for affluent mature singles to a whole new level.

This event is a communal event with mature singles from all over the UK and our other groups/websites joining in.

We are revolutionising the dating experience by offering exclusive opportunities and tailored services that cater specifically to the needs and desires of this discerning demographic.

Finding love and companionship at any age is important, and we have designed a membership platform specifically tailored to singles over 50, providing a closed singles community, curated events, and free access to dating and relationship coaches, courses and resources to help our singles community navigate this whole new dating world of 2023 with confidence.

This comprehensive approach sets us apart, by not only focusing on finding a partner but also on personal growth and development.

We are redefining what it means to find love and companionship after 50.

Join Melinda and Jacqui and they will elevate your dating journey to extraordinary heights.

As a part of our new and exclusive community, we require ID and address verification for all members, ensuring the safety and legitimacy of this unique group. (not a meetup group)

This group is new - June 2023, and is part of the new Select-Connections, Club Select Elite Membership Brand.

We also see this event as an opportunity to have an online singles social - so bring along a glass of wine, beer, a cup of tea or a good old Horlicks and sit back and enjoy the interaction with other singles over 60.

Membership opens in July. At that point, you will have the opportunity to move from Meetup to the Club Select Membership platform, where you will have access to many exclusive benefits which will be explained in the following pre-launch month.

Any questions? contact: OR

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Last weekend I wrote about a recent dating experience of mine and how I found it quite off-putting when a gentleman I was on a date with continually talked about himself, his successes and his trappings!

Since I published the blog, I have had a lot of people get in touch with me (male & female) regarding this subject and it is unfortunate to hear that there have been so many bad experiences where older men/women on dates tend to dominate the conversation and don't show much interest in getting to know their date or about their life.

I am of the opinion that many older people are nervous on a first date and this can cause them to keep talking about the subject that they know most about in life - themselves.

It is good to keep an open mind and move on to the second date to see if they are more relaxed and interested in you and your life.

Meantime, it's important to remember that everyone is unique and not all individuals behave the same way, it's understandable that such encounters can be frustrating and one-sided.

This evening, I am going to give you some valuable tips should you find yourself in this situation.

Here are a few strategies you can try to encourage a more balanced conversation and engage your date in learning about you: ☺️

  1. Take the initiative: Don't hesitate to steer the conversation towards yourself. Share anecdotes, stories, or ask open-ended questions about specific topics related to your life or interests.

  2. Be assertive: Politely interrupt or interject when you feel like the conversation is becoming too one-sided. Use phrases like, "That's interesting, but I'd love to share something about myself as well," or "I'm curious, what are your thoughts on [topic]?" This can help redirect the conversation and encourage your date to take an interest in you.

  3. Communicate your feelings: If you feel comfortable, you can openly express your desire to have a more balanced conversation. Politely let your date know that you would appreciate it if they took the time to ask about you and your life. Communication is key in any relationship, and addressing your concerns early on can lead to better understanding and more meaningful interactions.

  4. Evaluate compatibility: Pay attention to how your date responds to your attempts to engage them in conversation about your life. Are they receptive and interested, or do they continue to dominate the discussion? This can provide valuable insights into their personality and how compatible you might be in terms of communication styles and interests.

This last point (4) was the conclusion that I drew from my date - as much as I tried all the points above - he didn't really want to know. He was not nervous or remotely interested in any part of my life. Jacqui B ☺️

My Advice for someone on the receiving end: Remember, it's important to have conversations that are reciprocal and allow both individuals to share and learn about each other. If your date consistently shows disinterest in your life or doesn't make an effort to engage with you, it may be an indication of a lack of compatibility.

Make the effort to engage, they could be nervous and you could possibly go on a second date with the same person a week later and they are relaxed and keen to know all about you....

My advice for someone who talks about themselves: Before you go on a date, think about what you will chat about and what questions you would like to ask your date, keeping it light and general. This type of conversation on a first date will give you a better idea of your dates values and your commonalities,

Take time to ask open-ended questions and actively listen to their responses. Showing genuine interest in their thoughts, experiences, and perspectives will make them feel valued and appreciated.

Embrace the opportunity to learn about their new passions and experiences, and share your own stories and interests as well.

Open and honest communication is key to building a strong connection and developing a meaningful relationship.

A post-date exercise: On your way home after your date, think about how much you know about the person you just met and if you now know a little bit about:


their work (retirement)

their hopes and aspirations when meeting a new partner

their values

their interests

Then you have been active in engaging with your date.

If you leave the date and don't know anything other than their name, where they live and what they like to drink - then don't be surprised if there is no second date!

Jacqui B


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